Relationships can be tricky. Here's a psychic peek at what actions we might take when we suspect that we are being mistreated and asking ourselves these questions:
Is it me, the other or both who needs correction?
Is (s)he treating me right?
Do I play victim in my relationship?
Do I stay or go when I think abuse is occurring?
I am a follower of the I-Ching (the Chinese Book of Changes). The I-Ching advises that when we find ourselves in a position of little influence and the persons with whom we must deal pay us too little regard and there seems to be no adequate way to deal with the situation, we are tempted to give up.
Each time we face a problem of this sort, we can allow things to work out, we can force our opinions and actions on others, or we can abandon the problem altogether.
If we allow matters to work out, we have an opportunity to learn lessons and influence others through the power of our inner truth.
If we force matters, we may compromise our self-esteem because others may conform for a short time but not really have a change of heart that is needed.
If we choose to abandon the problem altogether, more than likely we will see a similar set of circumstances return again in order for us to make a better choice.